brainwashed.

I have witnessed & experienced the way a relationship can brainwash a person. Whether it be wanting what your partner wants you to want, or refraining from certain activities because you know that your partner would not approve. For example, not wearing shorts skirts or dresses because it makes him feel insecure, yet you think that you're not wearing them because it's what you want...if that makes any sense. After being put through something like that in my past, now I can recognize a mile away the controlling & brainwashing aspects of relationships. But now it seems to be an epidemic that is spreading to friends. A girl I knew to be independent, outgoing, & sassy has now changed to being dependent, quiet, & conservative. It seems that everyone knows someone like this. Why be with someone where you have to trick your own mind to be something that you're not? If you're with someone, they are your partner...not your controller. The most successful relationships I have seen is where two very independent people come together, and learn to share their life.

If your girlfriend or boyfriend flirts..so be it and trust them.
If they dress sexy, be proud to walk next to them & know that it is you they're going home with.
If they go out with their friends let them.

Bottomline: people need to get over their insecurities and learn to trust.